Just how does a person spot abusers in relationships? “Unreported: Learning to LIVE” Author Veera Mahajan reveals how, here below in this exclusive story for NewsBlaze.
Listen to the Exclusive Interview with Veera here below:
As noted in her official biography; Author, Mediator, and Public Speaker; Veera Mahajan is one of Malibu’s most esteemed community leaders. Author of the critically acclaimed book “Unreported: Learning to LIVE free,” about recognizing and overcoming domestic abuse and stopping domestic violence, Veera Mahajan is also a highly praised Educator, Mediator, and Publisher.
Veera did an exclusive interview with The Hollywood Sentinel recently, and the following is an excerpt of that highly valuable, important and educational discussion, concerning how to avoid the tricks many abusers may use to control their victims, as published earlier on ABC News:
Signs to look for as detailed by “UNREPORTED” author Veera Mahajan, are the following:
–Abusers may beg you for forgiveness
–Abusers may try to buy your love back with gifts
–Abusers may shower you with praise
–Abusers may then hurt you physically or emotionally all over again
As further reported by Veera on ABC News, she says, “Once they know that you bought their excuses and you are back, they will turn back to the same perpetrator that they were. This is called the “cycle of abuse” or “honeymoon period.” It happens again.”
Veera also adds,
“You have to look for patterns. If the behavior is not changing for good and keeps coming back, see that as the pattern–and run.”
It is not going to get better. They are only nice when they want to be forgiven, but they are not capable of maintaining the good behavior. You have to stop accepting the apologies, and see them for who they are, and figure out how to separate yourself from them. Believe that you deserve better and say “no” to abuse!”
As also reported on NBC News, Veera states, “Loving ourselves and forgiving ourselves for accepting abuse from others is the only way to move forward and have a better future. Forgiving others without loving ourselves is the worst thing we can do. That is what most of us do though. We keep forgiving others for hurting us and since we don’t love ourselves, we keep allowing them to hurt us again and that is how we continue to live in abusive situations.”
“You cannot rush the forgiveness. Focus on loving yourself one day. One kind deed toward yourself will help you love yourself.” –Veera Mahajan
Veera Adds, “Pretend that you do, and tell yourself everyday that you love yourself. One morning when you will look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love myself,” you will believe yourself and smile. Once you believe that you love yourself and are happy with yourself, hating someone else will not be important.”
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