Are you tired of checking your computer or smartphone and finding only online dating messages from men who you have no interest in spending an evening with, as you secretly hope that the cute match whose profile you adored would just hurry up and say hi? Well, I have some great news for you! To get what you want, all you have to do is take a more proactive approach. So, muster up your confidence, have some fun, and say hi to that gorgeous man in the suit.
Women are actually encouraged to make the first move when it comes to online dating, and statistics show that they see better results when they take the reins! If you find that you are just receiving messages from the wrong kind of men, it’s time to take matters into your own hands.
In fact, it has been shown that women who initiate the first conversation with a match through online dating sites, tend to be the ones who chat with a greater number of attractive users. While, women who wait for men to send the first message, often end up in conversations with men who are not in the same league as they are.
Why is this?
Well, for starters, a lot of eligible men, while they may have online dating accounts, might not be actively searching through matches simply because they are busy with other aspects of their life. So, if you are frequently checking your smartphone waiting for a certain user to message you and they do not, it does not necessarily mean that they are not interested. It may simply indicate that they have not had time to catch up on potential matches and have not even seen your profile. However, if you go ahead and send them a message, then they will know that you are there, will probably check out your profile, and are likely to write you back if they are interested.
Start Conversation, Show Interest
Being proactive will help ensure that you are on the radar of men who interest you. Thankfully, gone are the days when a woman approaching a man was seen as desperate. Flattery and excitement are common responses when a man gets a message from a remarkable woman! If you are interested in something, make it known!
Women are also more likely to get responses to messages than men are, and it is estimated that almost one out of three messages get responses when they are sent by women. The response numbers are much lower when a man is the one who sends the first message.
Nervous about being the first to speak? Remember, this is online dating, and everyone on a dating site is there to meet others. Chances are that any man you reach out to will be flattered that you sent a message his way! So, go on and give it a try. You may find that you love the empowering feeling of taking the control into your own hands.