Many online dating sites feature singles chat rooms where their members can join an on-going conversation with other members in real time.
These chat rooms are great places to meet other singles in a relaxed environment where they can get to know one another without having to wait.
Unlike meeting people the traditional way in a bar or a nightclub, you can’t rely on your saucy dance moves, your looks, or plying them with alcohol to get someone’s attention. Instead, you’re going to have to rely on your personality, your words, and charm.
Here’s some useful information that will help keep you from fading into singles chat obscurity and shine as someone people want to know.
The center of attention. Have a diverse vocabulary. You are going to be typing quite a bit, and you want to show that you’ve got a brain. Not only should you know how to spell (poor grammar and spelling tend to be a big pet peeve for people in a singles chat room, just so you know) and use proper grammar, but people take notice when you use words that are above a third-grade reading level.
- Use your words to flirt effectively. Although you do have the opportunity and ability to use emoticons in a singles chat room to flirt (who could resist that flirtatious wink-emoji or that adorable kissy-face one?), you should let your words do the flirting for you. You should know how to give someone a compliment that sound genuine and not a way to flatter them.
- Be mysterious. During the conversation in one of these rooms, you’ll never know what kind of topics will be discussed. You might want to join in and share whatever information you can, but pick and choose what stories you tell. If you frequent the same room enough times, people will remember you, and if you reveal enough information about yourself, there won’t be any reason to reach out to you and get to know you on a one-on-one level. Instead, keep some things to yourself. Create an air of mystery about yourself. You can share information, but don’t give too much detail. Remember that you should always leave them wanting more!
- Use an interesting avatar or choose an alluring photograph. Many singles chat rooms allow you to select your avatar or picture when you sign up and create a profile. This picture is a great way to show other members what you look like but also give them a visual representation at what you’re like to hang out with. For example, if you are an avid mountain climber or even a skydiver, think of all the attention you would draw if your profile picture showed you participating in one of these activities. Your picture can speak volumes if you let it!
- Be versatile. As already mentioned, you’ll never know what sort of topics will be discussed in a singles chat room, so it would be in your best interest to have a broad list of interests, experiences, and stories to share. You’ll find that when you are knowledgeable about many topics, people will be impressed and want to talk with you more – and that is always a good thing!
