I created a group on Facebook recently called “The Team Relationship Clinic”.
It is about sharing experiences and understanding how we can improve the crucial point of relationships at work and how this can improve performance and the financial bottom line.
Someone contributed with a really interesting story which I chose to include a snippet just below.
“…this one colleague that made my life a living hell at the office ended up getting me fired: but a client of the office called me the same day and offered me a job. I now have a great job with 2 great bosses and 1 great colleague, so I’m very happy!
The ex-colleague got run over by a truck a few weeks ago and is still at home recovering. Karma’s a b*tch! :-)… “
I am really interested in this story because it shows something that can change so much for so many people. When something is wrong in our environment, we generally try to fix it and make it better. Pretty often, it is just a feedback telling us that perhaps we should move on. This is a difficult feedback to take, especially when we don’t know how we are going to find another job. In this difficult economic situation, we hold on tight to our jobs and try to make it work at any cost. By doing so, we often block situations by trying to fix it, and we slow down the change process. What if life is just trying to tell us when things go wrong? Are we at the right place; are we in the right environment? Life has more imagination than we do and we don’t have the height to see what is really going on.
Imagine, for example, that you are on a road, and a policeman is making you take a diversion. You don’t want to take it because you know where you want to go and you don’t know why he wants you to change route. In fact, the policeman has information that you don’t have and if you stay on this road, you are going to be stuck for hours and hours.
What if life is doing exactly the same with us? What if in fact, life is just sending us feedback to adjust and make us move on to a better place, to something more in tune with who we are and what we really want? It is a question of faith: because we thing that we are in control and because we need to feel that we are in control, we act and make decisions with our rational brain forgetting to include our intuition and our feelings.
By resisting situations and potential changes, we prolong the pain and we slow down the process. If we have faith that everything is for the best, that everything will be ok, we can let go and go with the flow. It is easier to say than to do, but I can assure you that this story is not a one-off story. I heard so many similar stories and experimented it for myself many times. We need to accept that situations need to evolve, that things need to change and that we are part of the change.
For the lady who told us this story, things moved on for the best because she accepted letting go and to go with the flow. On the same day as being fired, she found a job without even looking for one. Accept the change in order to see the result unfold before your very eyes.
The other woman in the story probably did not take feedback from life for a very long time. Is it karma or is it something else? I don’t know if it is so important to put words on what makes this work but I know for a fact that it does work. Don’t wait to be run over by a truck to take feedback from life. If you think for a second that it is not your fault, you take the risk for the next feedback to be even stronger. When we don’t take responsibility for what happens to us, we miss a precious opportunity to understand feedback and to learn what we need to change.
If you are interested to know more about this group on Facebook, please follow the link http://www.facebook.com/groups/397179886969602/398315043522753