Sexting? Is It An Innocent Act to Seek Acceptance and Approval From Others?

By Donia S. Najar

Technology has begun affecting us in a bad way specially our young ones. Mobile, iPods, mp3s are some of the many things that are invented to make our lives easier and less complicated. As our modern society develops we see problems caused by our newest technology along with lack of carefulness.

Today, a new issue seen in our daily news is "SEXTING." For those who haven't heard about "sexting," it means the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photos electronically, primarily between cell phones.

It is a growing, serious issue in our modern society. We see and hear about children who are abused and harassed by fellow students or a sick person who tries to take advantage of the situation. What can we do about it? Are we really going to take mobiles away from our children, or is there another solution?

I speak from own experiences. I am a teenager and I still go to high school. But I am fortunate to be an enlightened teenager who knows what is best for her and what is right and wrong. But believe me I know many girls who are as enlightened as me and they still somehow manage to get themselves in trouble, for example, with "sexting."

The main problem seems to be that during high school, many boys are trying to prove themselves by trying to have as many girlfriends as possible. It is kind of identity proof to them, some kind of acceptance. Many girls are also trying also to show off by having a boyfriend. I feel ashamed saying it but it seems teenage girls often feel insecure about themselves so they try to prove to everyone that they are needed and wanted by another person.

I believe that this problem goes back to the way we raise our children and the lack of attention we give them while growing up. So teenagers, instead of feeling secure and stable, seek attention from others and in many cases this kind of behavior often ends very badly. But what is the solution?

We need to take care of our children, we need to give them more care, more attention, more love. Parents should have more control when it comes to the internet or who their children are texting and calling.

First of all we need to give them the feeling of acceptance and please try to be their friend instead of their prison guard. I know that you will take care of this. After all they are children. Learn to trust them to enable them to trust you in return.

Donia Najar loves to write science fiction and review books. She says writing is her supplying energy that keeps her functioning. See more from Donia at her website www.deesses.blogg.se where you can leave comments.